LIFE ABROAD - Bloomy LIFE vs Gloomy Existence

Whenever I sit aside doing nothing in this Vast Alien Land i.e. United States of America, I just think "What am I doing here?Am I Happy here?". I'm sure everyone living away from their family might have pondered this question a zillion Times. But what exactly our minds rests with on our life. Do you think you are happy or just missing family and friends???? This blog is just to share my thoughts of how I envision my life away from our HOME n HOMELAND.
Away from lovely family,caring friends and deep-rooten homeland lifestyle, being here in alien land makes us feel like this a lot of times. Family commitments or personal aspiration or financial outgrowth...name the reason so whatever.. How about the life you lead here. Do you feel there is no big difference or big Void ??? All are in your perspectives. Initially I thought I had to come abroad just because of family commitments and I had responsibilities to get done. So I was hesitant to adjust myself to this living style and was gribbing about this alienistic living. I was worried about change in work style, change in food habits, change in independent lifestlye. Everything here shocked rather than surprising me at first. I missed my home very much and was wondering when will I get back to my own HEAVEN ON EARTH. I thought all my pleasures and happiness lied in my home town and my family and nothing else mattered in this world. But slowly this question propped up - Was I still a home-grown KID or a matured independent MAN??? Well believe me buddies answering or rather trying to makes you realize a lot of things. You know you have genuine reasons to be here apart from your personal interests. But then if you know that this is going to be your life for some years in near future, do you still want to sit back and worry about missing the LIFE out there in HOMELAND or try to enjoy the lively happenings around you in this Alien World.
Lead a Bloomy Life enjoying new things here or Drag a Gloomy Existence missing old things there.
Thats upto you to figure that out. I tried to figure out which option I had to take and I'm 100% sure that I'm very happy that I went for former one. I started to enjoy the cuisines here. I planned a lot of trips around with all new friends I made here. Once these things cropped up in my lifestyle I really felt life here is also ain't that bad and this is also a lively environment to live on. Friendly people, independent lifestyle, self-respectable work style, mutual appreciation, lively food style, amazing travelogue experiences. Life here isn't that bad you see :) Apart from missing Family and friends and all the love that you got there, I think this alien life would also be a different experience in your life. Always experiences make a man more perfect or rather more interesting.
Just think for yourself, LIFE is precious as ever. Then why waste it worrying about what you miss thousands of miles away rather than exploring wonderful experiences in your hand in any alien land. Being Happy wherever you are and with whatever you have is the biggest asset anyone can develop in their life. Make it a Bloomy Lively Episode of your life or a Gloomy Existence Believe me friends, all in our hands.
LIFE AWAY HOME does mean that you are living away from all those things you have been brought up with and NOT LIVING AWAY FROM YOURSELF. LIFE is always within you and you have to decide to make it meaningful and enjoyable one rather than filling it with worries.

TRY NEW THINGS WHEREVER YOU ARE....
WHO KNOWS YOU MIGHT REDISCOVER YOURSELF.....

L.I.F.E. A.B.R.O.A.D. - I took it as a chance to RE-INVENT MYSELF...How about you???

Love - To Like or To Be Liked!!!!

As the topic itself proclaims the meaning,
"Does a person's life become more lovable when he/she is loved or he/she loves someone???"
Most of you might have thought about this but yet wanted to bring it into lime light for all our dear readers.
Throughout our life, all we need to go ahead is Love - Care - Support - Comfort whatever you name it. Thats the driving force in everyone's life. But the arguement here is does loving some person enlightens life or being loved does?....might be a toughie for most of us. The well known scenario for this topic happens in the marital zone of our life. Parents or for that matter people around us say that "LIFE IS WONDERFUL IF U MARRY SOMEONE WHO LIKES YOU RATHER THAN MARRYING SOMEONE YOU LIKE". What sets the bars across these two aspects??? Is that being LOVED places you in risk-free and lead a comfortable life or Does you loving someone inculcates a risk factor that it might turn down and you mite get hurt??
Always questions are posted easily but solving or rather answering within ourself is the hard part.why dont we try this within ourself .What say???
For me, being loved would be the better part ( might sound selfish though:) ). Its because once if someone loves you, they try to know all about U. Likes & Dislikes , Favourites & Stuffs you hate, What kinda musik u like and so on. So the point to be noted here is,
The person tried to know all about you because he/she likes U or
The person came to know all about you and that made them to like U
No matter what happens , you are being liked and so you are the nurtured one. Thats altogether a unique feeling that everyone has to experience. Imagine who it would be always surrounded my caring and lovely vibrations from the person who loves us the most in this world??? Nothing in this world would matter than this in our life. With such kinda love encompassing you, you will be able to tackle out anything in your life and win over it. Even when you dont win over it, you will not for sure go down as there is always that Love to comfort you and make you recover faster. Well lets see the other part of this discussion too.... If you love someone , knowing in and out about them, knowing their favourites, collecting small small things belonging to them all brings in all the thrill in yourself. thats all fine ...But what happens when the love is reciprocated incompletely or rather not returned back by the person???Its not seeing this aspect in a pessimistic sense. But its always the human nature that when you give something to a person , our selfish nature inherited in all humans expect atleast some of it to be returned back.Isn't it??

So what happens when the love you give is not returned, hurt of feelings strikes us and the total attitude we see the rest of our life takes a big Divertion.......Just think on these lines...I should be making sense. This suggestion might be argued by some of us in the other way. But as I say always every human being in this world is UNIQUE and each one's opinion differs . The focus was to bring on this sometimes invisible but yet powerful aspect in our main stage of life and make us think more before we act on something thats going to change the rest of our life .

Making a hell out of heaven or Heaven out of Hell - all in our hands.

So All the Best with your lives !!!

Chao

Thirumanam Irumanam

Yesterday I sat down to watch Mercury Pookal starring Shrikanth and my fav meera Jasmine and directed by Stanley who gave us my another fav movie - April Madathil. Well I should admit I was totally amazed at this movie. People if you like parthiban kanavu, then this is another version of it.I just fell for this movie.The bottom line of the story is two un interested souls are tied up into marriage by their parents which then bursts out into misunderstandings.But then eventually both fall in love and problems comes up in form of their parents.Remaining story shows how they understand what is real marriage lifen all .The scenes were so aptly practical n next door scenarios portrayed with pretty gud performances.This concept made me to share somethings with you my reader frienz & here it goes .....

Marriage - well each 1 have their own version of this LIFE commitment.Parents Vs Gal N Guy :) .I dont know why but then the very practise of so called Arranged marriage has been deep rooted into our society.For good or bad - nobody knows. But I'm ain't here to blame it but then why does it always have to be the parents who choose the for our entire life. I'm not here to strike out the fact "NO ARRANGED ONLY LOVE MARRIAGES", but its just why don't parent give full freedom for their children on their marriages. Say , when a son goes to USA , parents say to their relatives - "We have belief in our son.He is one gem of a character.Nothing will go wrong even if he is away from us".Now where does that belief go when the BIG thing comes up?Does that mean they are still ain't sure that their childeren can do anything right , but not selecting their partners? Something like this happens in almost all of our marriages - the parents prepare a shortlist of eligible alliances out of meetings in various occasions with the relatives such as

Some Relative X: "unga paiyen enga work panraan???"
Anther Relative Y: "en paiyen US-le s/w engr-a irukaan .maasam rs.XXX lacs sambalam
vanguraan.ippo thaan avan per-le 30L-ku veedu vanginomakkum!!!"
X : "adengappa..unga paiyen-ku evlo vayasagudhu?parthitu irukeengala???"
Y : "hmmm...!! ippo enna vayasagudhu avanku.chinna paiyen maami avan"
X : "appadi sollara pudathu maami.indha kalathule nalla varan amayuradhu kastam.ennoda x'oda y'oda z'oda.........(n connections ) ponnu oruthi parka mahalakshmi atam irupa.jadagam kodungo .porundhuradhuna parpoom.porutham amanjadhanna..pesiduvoom ...enna solrel?"
Y ( now confused) : (thinking) "is my son really ready to marraige ??" "seri maami .naan tharen.parkalam ellam baghavan seyal".

And there goes the life of two unknown souls to be tied up - MARRIAGE .Then the short listed alliance photos are shown to the guy/gal and asked to choose 1 photo and nod YES & marry for rest of the life.Is this any job offer kinda situation?? Select one offer from all that you have and marry that Mr. or Ms. X ????Does that make any sense to you?

I agree parents know whats right & wrong for us,but then this is our LIFE.Im not offending the very thought of arranged marriages, but then why cant present generataion parents make their arranged marriages more into love 1s, so both the familes , Bride and Bridegroom all are happy out of this biggie:). But then it all depends on the relationship with parents and their children. May be what I think is , you get engaged , have some ample time span to get to know each other before marriage. This span is not to decide if he/she is going to suit me as partner - no, becase now u r commited and just cant deny No this aint working out.Selecting from thee lot is all in your hands - your fate out of your hands so that U dont blame others for your life in future :) jst kidding. Of course this is not a hard-to-digest truth because obviously we are going to share our life with a unknown person .Why not make that Mr.X as ur partner by understanding in that given time frame betweeen engagement and marriage. This can be utilizied as an oppurtunity to know who us partner is?what is his/her +ves and -ves?Where do I have to adjust ?Where do I have to guide?Where do I need support???etc..etc... so that ultimately when the MEGA EVENT comes up you are mentally prepared that your marriage doesnt seem to be like a NIGHTMARE or a SHOCK Package.

Both of you know that you are going to share rest of your lives with each other but not with complete strangers as before but with some1 whom you know NOW.Am I sounding somewhat sensible ???Well this might be a suggestion to compromise betweek the guy n gal and their families in regards of marriage.Well as always there might be YES's and NO's for this article but this is an attempt to bring in some extra light on what is going to be our LIFE's MEGA FESTIVAL - OCCASION - EVENT.Its upto to the guy and gal to understand each other before marriage so that LIFE after MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPLETE SHOCKER BUT A SWEET SURPRISE. That makes it more interesting and thrilled isnt it????
Well tat reminds me of a joke here @ this juncture

"Marriage and cell phones are similar because obviously u know that - gosh I should have waited a bit longer , I could have got a better model"

Its just a thought ok lol. Doesn't mean that marriages cant be perfect. No pair is matched 100% perfect. It got to be improved to be perfect by the partners and the journey to make it 100% perfect is what the thrill is about .This might relate to my previous blog ACCEPT than EXPECT. Hope this small chunk of my thoughts might be of some meaning . So go ahead - some1 out there is waiting for you :) Get to them, lead a happy life but @ sametime there are these angels by your side called parents. Love - 2 souls coming as 1 but there are 2 minds involved .Wherever minds are there, thoughts and contractions in opinions would be there.So its upto you to make ur MARRIAGE - HEAVEN IN HELL or HELL OUT OF A HEAVEN.