Thirumanam Irumanam

Yesterday I sat down to watch Mercury Pookal starring Shrikanth and my fav meera Jasmine and directed by Stanley who gave us my another fav movie - April Madathil. Well I should admit I was totally amazed at this movie. People if you like parthiban kanavu, then this is another version of it.I just fell for this movie.The bottom line of the story is two un interested souls are tied up into marriage by their parents which then bursts out into misunderstandings.But then eventually both fall in love and problems comes up in form of their parents.Remaining story shows how they understand what is real marriage lifen all .The scenes were so aptly practical n next door scenarios portrayed with pretty gud performances.This concept made me to share somethings with you my reader frienz & here it goes .....

Marriage - well each 1 have their own version of this LIFE commitment.Parents Vs Gal N Guy :) .I dont know why but then the very practise of so called Arranged marriage has been deep rooted into our society.For good or bad - nobody knows. But I'm ain't here to blame it but then why does it always have to be the parents who choose the for our entire life. I'm not here to strike out the fact "NO ARRANGED ONLY LOVE MARRIAGES", but its just why don't parent give full freedom for their children on their marriages. Say , when a son goes to USA , parents say to their relatives - "We have belief in our son.He is one gem of a character.Nothing will go wrong even if he is away from us".Now where does that belief go when the BIG thing comes up?Does that mean they are still ain't sure that their childeren can do anything right , but not selecting their partners? Something like this happens in almost all of our marriages - the parents prepare a shortlist of eligible alliances out of meetings in various occasions with the relatives such as

Some Relative X: "unga paiyen enga work panraan???"
Anther Relative Y: "en paiyen US-le s/w engr-a irukaan .maasam rs.XXX lacs sambalam
vanguraan.ippo thaan avan per-le 30L-ku veedu vanginomakkum!!!"
X : "adengappa..unga paiyen-ku evlo vayasagudhu?parthitu irukeengala???"
Y : "hmmm...!! ippo enna vayasagudhu avanku.chinna paiyen maami avan"
X : "appadi sollara pudathu maami.indha kalathule nalla varan amayuradhu kastam.ennoda x'oda y'oda z'oda.........(n connections ) ponnu oruthi parka mahalakshmi atam irupa.jadagam kodungo .porundhuradhuna parpoom.porutham amanjadhanna..pesiduvoom ...enna solrel?"
Y ( now confused) : (thinking) "is my son really ready to marraige ??" "seri maami .naan tharen.parkalam ellam baghavan seyal".

And there goes the life of two unknown souls to be tied up - MARRIAGE .Then the short listed alliance photos are shown to the guy/gal and asked to choose 1 photo and nod YES & marry for rest of the life.Is this any job offer kinda situation?? Select one offer from all that you have and marry that Mr. or Ms. X ????Does that make any sense to you?

I agree parents know whats right & wrong for us,but then this is our LIFE.Im not offending the very thought of arranged marriages, but then why cant present generataion parents make their arranged marriages more into love 1s, so both the familes , Bride and Bridegroom all are happy out of this biggie:). But then it all depends on the relationship with parents and their children. May be what I think is , you get engaged , have some ample time span to get to know each other before marriage. This span is not to decide if he/she is going to suit me as partner - no, becase now u r commited and just cant deny No this aint working out.Selecting from thee lot is all in your hands - your fate out of your hands so that U dont blame others for your life in future :) jst kidding. Of course this is not a hard-to-digest truth because obviously we are going to share our life with a unknown person .Why not make that Mr.X as ur partner by understanding in that given time frame betweeen engagement and marriage. This can be utilizied as an oppurtunity to know who us partner is?what is his/her +ves and -ves?Where do I have to adjust ?Where do I have to guide?Where do I need support???etc..etc... so that ultimately when the MEGA EVENT comes up you are mentally prepared that your marriage doesnt seem to be like a NIGHTMARE or a SHOCK Package.

Both of you know that you are going to share rest of your lives with each other but not with complete strangers as before but with some1 whom you know NOW.Am I sounding somewhat sensible ???Well this might be a suggestion to compromise betweek the guy n gal and their families in regards of marriage.Well as always there might be YES's and NO's for this article but this is an attempt to bring in some extra light on what is going to be our LIFE's MEGA FESTIVAL - OCCASION - EVENT.Its upto to the guy and gal to understand each other before marriage so that LIFE after MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPLETE SHOCKER BUT A SWEET SURPRISE. That makes it more interesting and thrilled isnt it????
Well tat reminds me of a joke here @ this juncture

"Marriage and cell phones are similar because obviously u know that - gosh I should have waited a bit longer , I could have got a better model"

Its just a thought ok lol. Doesn't mean that marriages cant be perfect. No pair is matched 100% perfect. It got to be improved to be perfect by the partners and the journey to make it 100% perfect is what the thrill is about .This might relate to my previous blog ACCEPT than EXPECT. Hope this small chunk of my thoughts might be of some meaning . So go ahead - some1 out there is waiting for you :) Get to them, lead a happy life but @ sametime there are these angels by your side called parents. Love - 2 souls coming as 1 but there are 2 minds involved .Wherever minds are there, thoughts and contractions in opinions would be there.So its upto you to make ur MARRIAGE - HEAVEN IN HELL or HELL OUT OF A HEAVEN.