Thirumanam Irumanam

Yesterday I sat down to watch Mercury Pookal starring Shrikanth and my fav meera Jasmine and directed by Stanley who gave us my another fav movie - April Madathil. Well I should admit I was totally amazed at this movie. People if you like parthiban kanavu, then this is another version of it.I just fell for this movie.The bottom line of the story is two un interested souls are tied up into marriage by their parents which then bursts out into misunderstandings.But then eventually both fall in love and problems comes up in form of their parents.Remaining story shows how they understand what is real marriage lifen all .The scenes were so aptly practical n next door scenarios portrayed with pretty gud performances.This concept made me to share somethings with you my reader frienz & here it goes .....

Marriage - well each 1 have their own version of this LIFE commitment.Parents Vs Gal N Guy :) .I dont know why but then the very practise of so called Arranged marriage has been deep rooted into our society.For good or bad - nobody knows. But I'm ain't here to blame it but then why does it always have to be the parents who choose the for our entire life. I'm not here to strike out the fact "NO ARRANGED ONLY LOVE MARRIAGES", but its just why don't parent give full freedom for their children on their marriages. Say , when a son goes to USA , parents say to their relatives - "We have belief in our son.He is one gem of a character.Nothing will go wrong even if he is away from us".Now where does that belief go when the BIG thing comes up?Does that mean they are still ain't sure that their childeren can do anything right , but not selecting their partners? Something like this happens in almost all of our marriages - the parents prepare a shortlist of eligible alliances out of meetings in various occasions with the relatives such as

Some Relative X: "unga paiyen enga work panraan???"
Anther Relative Y: "en paiyen US-le s/w engr-a irukaan .maasam rs.XXX lacs sambalam
vanguraan.ippo thaan avan per-le 30L-ku veedu vanginomakkum!!!"
X : "adengappa..unga paiyen-ku evlo vayasagudhu?parthitu irukeengala???"
Y : "hmmm...!! ippo enna vayasagudhu avanku.chinna paiyen maami avan"
X : "appadi sollara pudathu maami.indha kalathule nalla varan amayuradhu kastam.ennoda x'oda y'oda z'oda.........(n connections ) ponnu oruthi parka mahalakshmi atam irupa.jadagam kodungo .porundhuradhuna parpoom.porutham amanjadhanna..pesiduvoom ...enna solrel?"
Y ( now confused) : (thinking) "is my son really ready to marraige ??" "seri maami .naan tharen.parkalam ellam baghavan seyal".

And there goes the life of two unknown souls to be tied up - MARRIAGE .Then the short listed alliance photos are shown to the guy/gal and asked to choose 1 photo and nod YES & marry for rest of the life.Is this any job offer kinda situation?? Select one offer from all that you have and marry that Mr. or Ms. X ????Does that make any sense to you?

I agree parents know whats right & wrong for us,but then this is our LIFE.Im not offending the very thought of arranged marriages, but then why cant present generataion parents make their arranged marriages more into love 1s, so both the familes , Bride and Bridegroom all are happy out of this biggie:). But then it all depends on the relationship with parents and their children. May be what I think is , you get engaged , have some ample time span to get to know each other before marriage. This span is not to decide if he/she is going to suit me as partner - no, becase now u r commited and just cant deny No this aint working out.Selecting from thee lot is all in your hands - your fate out of your hands so that U dont blame others for your life in future :) jst kidding. Of course this is not a hard-to-digest truth because obviously we are going to share our life with a unknown person .Why not make that Mr.X as ur partner by understanding in that given time frame betweeen engagement and marriage. This can be utilizied as an oppurtunity to know who us partner is?what is his/her +ves and -ves?Where do I have to adjust ?Where do I have to guide?Where do I need support???etc..etc... so that ultimately when the MEGA EVENT comes up you are mentally prepared that your marriage doesnt seem to be like a NIGHTMARE or a SHOCK Package.

Both of you know that you are going to share rest of your lives with each other but not with complete strangers as before but with some1 whom you know NOW.Am I sounding somewhat sensible ???Well this might be a suggestion to compromise betweek the guy n gal and their families in regards of marriage.Well as always there might be YES's and NO's for this article but this is an attempt to bring in some extra light on what is going to be our LIFE's MEGA FESTIVAL - OCCASION - EVENT.Its upto to the guy and gal to understand each other before marriage so that LIFE after MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPLETE SHOCKER BUT A SWEET SURPRISE. That makes it more interesting and thrilled isnt it????
Well tat reminds me of a joke here @ this juncture

"Marriage and cell phones are similar because obviously u know that - gosh I should have waited a bit longer , I could have got a better model"

Its just a thought ok lol. Doesn't mean that marriages cant be perfect. No pair is matched 100% perfect. It got to be improved to be perfect by the partners and the journey to make it 100% perfect is what the thrill is about .This might relate to my previous blog ACCEPT than EXPECT. Hope this small chunk of my thoughts might be of some meaning . So go ahead - some1 out there is waiting for you :) Get to them, lead a happy life but @ sametime there are these angels by your side called parents. Love - 2 souls coming as 1 but there are 2 minds involved .Wherever minds are there, thoughts and contractions in opinions would be there.So its upto you to make ur MARRIAGE - HEAVEN IN HELL or HELL OUT OF A HEAVEN.

Am I Matured or Immatured?

Well its now being the Nth time have I thot - Am I being the son acting irresponsible and immatured or is it my parents?I ask this myself when I sit down to think my past 1 yr life. One year bac , I was working in the same way back in my lovable nation but with the secured feeling of staying in my nation and close to my family.I was being advised to be much more matured in my decisions and act towards my future. Well in response to those so called advices, I planned my future in India itself to move ahead in my career job , earn more , save more and ultimately make my future a better 1 to both me and my parents. But at this very juncture comes the comes this big Clash of thoughts and decisions in my life in the name of GENERATION GAP - ME Vs PARENTS.

I hope many of you @ this situation might have thought to stay back in our own nation - earn more and live ahead happily.My parents,who asked me to act maturedly advising "Son, its high time you see your careeer abroad.You will get more technical exposure.You will earn more".If you try to investigate the original brainmaster in such comments and preachings of our lovable makers,the initial source would be the so called SOCIETY. Let me state an incident for this :

When I was at home for my vacations some time early last year, one of my close relative came up and had a tit-bit chat with my mom.She was asking about my job, where I work , how long Im in job , etc . Now here comes the most anticipated momber on our parents mind - she ultimately shooted THE Q "Why is your son not into USA now?You know my father's X's Y's Z's is in USA.He earns this much and he already has got a apartment here you know.We have started to look alliances for him .Obviously now he will get big big alliances le". What would you expect out of this HIGHLY SENSITIVE ISSUE ???. If u were in my stand - YES U got it. My mom came upto me, after the Female NARADHAR left, saying "karthi.see how they tell how big you can earn in USA?you dont u also try to go to onsite.its been arnd 2.5 years u r working.So ask for onsite and earn more son.Its for your future only.You earn more so you save more and invest thangam....blah blah..".

That very point of this advise triggers the big Question for me - Am I acting Immatured or they?????? Why do our parents who preach all things for our future , lend their ears to all those useless talks from those so called RELATIVES but not listen to our own opinions. Does these emotional blackmails from our parents really proving improvement in our own personal life??? Does that mean listening to them and working here denote - Am I leading a convincing life or compromising life??? When we the youth Generation X are so eager to spend our living and future with parents in our home nation with all the confidence to make out for our happy living, why doesnt the same prompt into our senior generation aka parents ?Are we matured in this sense or not? Mebbe this can be patriotism or Emotional Maturity in us?.But why doesn't this echo into our elders' minds who just want to see their products get marketed in the International market and earn more rather than staying near them and earn just for a happy living? Am I right or wrong in this regards?

Well lots of questions always do arise when we talk on something emotional and so does this issue.But does listening to them ,improves our lives or its just we are made to live happily with something thats not into our intensions of living?Well If you ask me I would say they are not wrong because I love them so mch and yeah I'M AN EMOTIONAL IDIOT :)Well the decision is ours to make for our life. I have decided to be here for some years for my parents's happiness and move back to my mother land for settling down which would be my own intentions .So does that mean I have lead my life convincing or compromising? GOK :)))

Am I Patriot?

After our lunch this noon, we sat down to see Rang De Basanti .For me it was 3rd Time but I didnt get bored to see this particular movie, though every scene in it has been into my heart the very first time itself. As the movie slowly went on, the nerve of the movie - feel of the essence - creeped into my thoughts not just for first time but also at very third time.What is that this movie is trying to put into every one of us?Do we need to follow their food steps - reform our nation - kill the corrupted people and say "Im trying to reform my nation?" or Is It trying to put a question in each of us WHAT IS PATRIOTISM??

Thoughts ran across as I was washing my plates - What am I doing here ? - Working in USA , earning in $s and eating half cooked tasteless food and see a patriotic movie once in a while and finally say "Gosh .We havent done anything for our country". My dear friend who saw this movie didnt tell anything and went to bed.Was wondering am I addicated to just being affected by any movie or am I provoked by this movie as such?Even when I saw the movie first time, 1000s of question prompted up leading to 1 single question - "Am I Patriotic or not? If I'm not then who is a patriot??". My other roomie was mentioning about the new youth group of 3 IIT-ians forming up a political party to take the FIRST STEP and they should be doing things to reform our country. I know we all do feel the same thing but why does none of the soul who can feel that responsibility take that??. I know even I wont stand up to take it up but why is that?Does that mean that if we are not to take up responsibility to reform something , then we are not patriotic?

This Q is always there in each and everyone's mind and no-one can deny that.If they deny it, then for sure buddy you are fooling urself.Of course all we can do is expresss our views to reform but not put it into action.But I would say I am a patriot.Wanna know why? Well atleast I have this feeling inside me that something should be done to my country from my side. Aint this feeling a trigger for my patriotism? Is it not the initiative that MIGHT (stressing MIGHT and not WILL because still im a typical patriot - tell things but might not end up putting them into action ) make me do something to my country. May be I cant do any reformation in the political side?May be I cannot stand up in elections, represent people and do reformations from my side to my nation? But does only these things count up to show up your patriotism?Well not for me guyz. For me, doing anything thats going to be benefitial to every other living soul on this nation is being patriotic.Social services, helping poor, donations towards orphanages and old homes - trying every little thing towards the benefit of some soul in this nation is what that counts for me. Well I know this might not sound logical to many. But atleast I know What Patriotism is for me?? How many of you can atleast say this?

Well its not questioning each other do you know what patriotism is?Its questioning yourself asking what have I or atleast what am I going to do for the betterment of my nation and its people. If you could answer that, then you might feel just the way I feel. Many say "Something is better than nothing". That might also suit this scenario.Thinking of the nation is better than just sitting and wondering - Am i Patriot or not ?? Every action starts up with a spark of thought - a pinch of emotional attachment to it .Nothing comes out just like that. An instinct - a thought is needed for it.

For those who are reading this , It might be just another blog questioning U again and again finally making you say "Its all in words and we cant put into action" .Well I would say one thing to you - allow this thought to get planted into your mind - let it grow up - let it then reep into some action which might be something benefitial to our nation - to a human being . Who knows what might happen?
But then as putting an end to anything - trying to put an end to this blog - I have to say this might be a forcible ending to this thought in this section - but not for sure THE END to the thoughts that has been deep-rooted within ME. This END might be the very beginning of making me feel that Im planning somethign to be done to prove myself patriot to my nation . It might happen to you too.If it does so- then my blog has done its work and now its U to do ur work. This might not sound real PATRIOTISM - but as we all say each 1 has their own versions of everything . This is my version - might suit you or not. If it makes you feel for something, then "GO AHEAD , PLAN AND DO SOMETHING for YOUR NATION" and let me know what you felt abt ur own version of PATRIOTISM.